Do you know when you compliment someone as ‘hot’ or ‘sexy’? When you think they are desirable or worthy of attracting (preferably the opposite genders), right?
While many women enjoy the compliments, a section of us gets offended by the term!
Want to know why?
It is all about your perception, your mind. When people see Nora Fatehi dancing on screen, some see desire; some see art. How can she be so flexible? Many others giggle every time they see her performing. So, you see, it’s not all about our bodily desires! There’s a world beyond that.
Yes, I do not enjoy being complimented as ‘sexy’ because it reduces me to a mere object-a plastic or inanimate object. While I consider myself very much alive and full of emotions, I feel it’s difficult for me to face a person who doesn’t recognize my emotions or intellect.
Why do they assume that a woman must be obliged or delighted about the fact that she can attract someone physically towards her? She might be interested in connecting with someone intellectually or emotionally or through art!
Why do they assume that women are ‘asking for it’ if they show up in a short dress in her profile pictures? There can be a hundred reasons for a woman to pick a dress or pose for a photo!
Many women perceive themselves as independent thinkers, leaders, change-makers, artists, creators, authors, or poets. Many of us don’t enjoy being complimented as ‘hot’ or ‘sexy.’ It hurts our emotions or self esteems, that our creative capabilities have been reduced to zero in a go!
We enjoy compliments about our works, our sense of humor, our IQ levels, our analytical skills, and so on! The list is endless if one has the eye or desire to look for it!
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